The first Gay Fathers meeting is a big step. Who will be there? What is this about? If this describes you, then relax, you are like the vast majority of men at their first Gay Fathers meeting. Do let someone know if this is your first meeting. Then sit back and join in the discussion when ready. If asked, answering with "I prefer to listen, tonight" will be respected.
We discuss many topics related to our experiences -- past and present -- about being attracted to men and being a father, and we encourage every man to participate. However, Gay Fathers of Toronto will not advise. We encourage every man to find the path best suited for him and his situation.
How does a gay dad crack the gay social sphere? Many have lived the “picket fence” world, and maybe haven’t considered becoming active in the other communities that didn't seem possible before. Maybe finding a group that for the first time and realizing, “I do belong!” Navigating the new world of an expanded social scene has pitfalls, but many many rewards.
After the sensory overload of coming out, making connections in the LGBTQ+ world allows us to see what life can be like. Let’s discuss the opportunities tonight that exist beyond the bars, and apps. What supports can we find? What social opportunities exist? What do you mean there are gay campgrounds? Gay sports leagues? Gay days at Disney or Wonderland with the kids? Whether it is alone or with your family there are lots of ways to integrate into a new community. Let’s use tonight to discuss maybe things what we may have never knew existed, or share suggestions for creating more networks. Living an authentic life means looking beyond what we know, explore what is out there. Being a gay dad doesn’t mean we do not have opportunities to enjoy new connections and new communities to join.
*When two or more facilitators are usually present, the Second Facilitator will be happy to talk privately if you prefer.*
The 519 Church St Community Centre, Room 304 Map to 519 ►[Opens new window]◄
Gay Fathers of Toronto is independent and is not financially supported or sponsored by any organization or group. Self-supported since it first met in 1978, every man is asked to contribute $5 at each meeting to defray the costs of meeting space, the website, etc. however at your first meeting, you are our guest. If $5 is a financial burden and is the reason for not coming, please contact or email (firstname.lastname@example.org)privately. We are here to support, not to inhibit or to embarrass.
Meeting leaders are gay fathers and volunteers. Please note, they are trained to facilitate discussions; they are not life coaches, marriage counsellors, psychologists, or lawyers. They cannot give advice. Gay Fathers encourages all men to seek out professional assistance where it may be needed.
Mutual respect is expected. Predatory or intimidating behaviour will not be tolerated. Gay Fathers of Toronto has a Code of Mutual Respect. Ask a Facilitator to browse a copy of it if you want more information. Talk to a Facilitator or email us confidentially (email@example.com) about anything that offends or concerns you.