The first Gay Fathers meeting is a big step. Who will be there? What is this about? If this describes you, then relax, you are like the vast majority of men at their first Gay Fathers meeting. Do let someone know if this is your first meeting. Then sit back and join in the discussion when ready. If asked, answering with "I prefer to listen, tonight" will be respected.
We discuss many topics related to our experiences -- past and present -- about being attracted to men and being a father, and we encourage every man to participate. However, Gay Fathers of Toronto will not advise. We encourage every man to find the path best suited for him and his situation.
After coming out to yourself and (hopefully) giving yourself permission to be gay there’s a whole new world to discover…and it’s all about you!! You have lived most of your life identifying as a straight young man, then becoming a husband, son-in-law and father and now you have this new identity to explore and own. And you’re most likely entering the gay community not knowing any gay people or even having close gay friends. There is so much to discover about the “new you” and how to move forward. How do you do that?
All those pent up or repressed sexual feelings you had are now set free and becoming raging hormones. It’s kinda like being a horny teenager again (psychologists call it “neo-adolescence”). Dating gay men is not the same experience you had dating women. In addition, there’s a lot of confusion where sometimes an intense sexual connection with a man can be confused with love. How do you deal with all these new emotions, mixed messages and rituals of gay dating?
*When two or more facilitators are usually present, the Second Facilitator will be happy to talk privately if you prefer.*
The 519 Church St Community Centre, Room 304 Map to 519 ►[Opens new window]◄
Gay Fathers of Toronto is independent and is not financially supported or sponsored by any organization or group. Self-supported since it first met in 1978, every man is asked to contribute $5 at each meeting to defray the costs of meeting space, the website, etc. however at your first meeting, you are our guest. If $5 is a financial burden and is the reason for not coming, please contact or email (firstname.lastname@example.org)privately. We are here to support, not to inhibit or to embarrass.
Meeting leaders are gay fathers and volunteers. Please note, they are trained to facilitate discussions; they are not life coaches, marriage counsellors, psychologists, or lawyers. They cannot give advice. Gay Fathers encourages all men to seek out professional assistance where it may be needed.
Mutual respect is expected. Predatory or intimidating behaviour will not be tolerated. Gay Fathers of Toronto has a Code of Mutual Respect. Ask a Facilitator to browse a copy of it if you want more information. Talk to a Facilitator or email us confidentially (email@example.com) about anything that offends or concerns you.