Feel alone? Isolated? Uncertain about the word gay? Newcomers often feel alone, like an outsider, or not certain if the Gay Fathers is the right place for them. Maybe this is your first contact with the 'gay community'. We've all been there. No one needs to remain alone.
That first meeting is a big step. The future may seem uncertain, stressful, scary, even spinning out of control. Yet, that first step may also hold the hope of a revitalized future, of personal growth, of hoped-for love, and of a new-found self-confidence. It may also mean family adjustments.
We won't advise. We will share our experiences, listen to yours, and support you in the path that suits you and your situation. We demand only a mutual respect for the differences and similarities of every man's situation and experience, his personal boundaries and privacy
Thanksgiving traditions in Canada are much more fluid than those we see on American television. It may mean turkey dinner at the in-laws, a corn roast at the cottage, a long weekend with the kids, a drive to see the red maples, or you may have no traditions at all ...or do you?
When it is no longer possible to continue the familiar routine, that's when people suddenly discover, "Oh! This is the way we always observed Thanksgiving" (or any special tradition). Divorce, separation, or any major family change frequently alters or stops the familiar routines, and people are often caught unprepared. Even anticipating the possibility of a future separation can put these traditions into stark relief. Will this be the last family Thanksgiving? Maybe it's just beginning to register that how you observe this coming Thanksgiving weekend - with or without the kids - is entirely your decision. How do you feel about that? Will you establish YOUR tradition. If you already have adjusted, how did you make this holiday weekend yours as a gay father?
Discussion Facilitator: Paul C *Second Facilitator: John J
*When two or more facilitators are usually present, the Second Facilitator will be happy to talk privately if you prefer.*
The 519 Church St Community Centre, Room 304
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aGay Fathers of Toronto is operated by and for gay dads. All fathers, step-fathers, their same-sex partners, and all gay/bi men in a fathering role are welcome at a GFT meeting. It is an independent, peer support group that is run and governed by gay fathers. It has no political, corporate, or religious affiliation and receives no outside financial assistance. We ask each person to contribute $5 per meeting to cover website and other incidental expenses.
At your first meeting, though, you are our guest. If $5 is a financial burden or is the reason for staying away, please contact a Facilitator in person or email a private message to the lead Facilitator (email@example.com). We are here to support, not to inhibit or embarrass.
Meeting leaders are trained to facilitate discussions at support meetings; they are not professional life coaches, marriage counsellors, or psychologists.We talk about our own experience. We do not advise or challenge.
Predatory or intimidating behaviour will not be tolerated. Gay Fathers of Toronto has a Code of Mutual Respect. Ask a Facilitator to browse a copy of it if you want more information about it. Talk to a Facilitator or email us confidentially (firstname.lastname@example.org) about anything that offends or concerns you.