Feel alone? Isolated? Uncertain about the word gay? Newcomers often feel alone, like an outsider, or not certain if the Gay Fathers is the right place for them. Maybe this is your first contact with the 'gay community'. We've all been there. No one needs to remain alone.
That first meeting is a big step. The future may seem uncertain, stressful, scary, even spinning out of control. Yet, that first step may also hold the hope of a revitalized future, of personal growth, of hoped-for love, and of a new-found self-confidence. It may also mean family adjustments.
We won't advise. We will share our experiences, listen to yours, and support you in the path that suits you and your situation. We demand only a mutual respect for the differences and similarities of every man's situation and experience, his personal boundaries and privacy
Coming out sometimes feels like being a kid in a candy store. So much eye candy... So many flavours... So many places to explore and experiences to discover. But… you've got the kids this week / weekend / the summer / full time, or you established a balance between your private family life and your life as dad, EXCEPT you have just met this great guy or there's a really special event you want to go to or an important approaching family event requires your presence. How do you choose? What are the consequences of choosing between them?
It is likely that your former public life and private life were not completely separate domains that were unaware of each other, so why must they be separate now? Must your social life and your life with the kids be mutually discrete worlds? Is discretion necessary or just comfortable? Some gay fathers have eliminated much of the split between gay life and father life; there are few, if any, secrets, minimal caution, and language is unguarded. What would it take to make "discrete lives" and "discreet life" unnecessary?
*When two or more facilitators are usually present, the Second Facilitator will be happy to talk privately if you prefer.*
The 519 Church St Community Centre, Room 304
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Gay Fathers of Toronto is operated by and for gay dads. All fathers, step-fathers, their same-sex partners, and all gay/bi men in a fathering role are welcome at a GFT meeting. It is an independent, peer support group that is run and governed by gay fathers. It has no political, corporate, or religious affiliation and receives no outside financial assistance. We ask each person to contribute $5 per meeting to cover website and other incidental expenses.
At your first meeting, though, you are our guest. If $5 is a financial burden or is the reason for staying away, please contact a Facilitator in person or email a private message to the lead Facilitator (firstname.lastname@example.org). We are here to support, not to inhibit or embarrass.
Meeting leaders are trained to facilitate discussions at support meetings; they are not professional life coaches, marriage counsellors, or psychologists.We talk about our own experience. We do not advise or challenge.
Predatory or intimidating behaviour will not be tolerated. Gay Fathers of Toronto has a Code of Mutual Respect. Ask a Facilitator to browse a copy of it if you want more information about it. Talk to a Facilitator or email us confidentially (email@example.com) about anything that offends or concerns you.