Feel alone? Isolated? Uncertain about the word gay? Newcomers often feel alone, like an outsider, or not certain if the Gay Fathers is the right place for them. Maybe this is your first contact with the 'gay community'. We've all been there. No one needs to remain alone.
That first meeting is a big step. The future may seem uncertain, stressful, scary, even spinning out of control. Yet, that first step may also hold the hope of a revitalized future, of personal growth, of hoped-for love, and of a new-found self-confidence. It may also mean family adjustments.
We won't advise. We will share our experiences, listen to yours, and support you in the path that suits you and your situation. We demand only a mutual respect for the differences and similarities of every man's situation and experience, his personal boundaries and privacy
"In a relationship" is a phrase that carries big meaning in Canadian culture. Being in a relationship seems to be the social norm or at least everyone's objective. Being in one definitely confers social privileges, and not being in a relationship may be a source of stress. (Of course, being "in" one sooner or later leads to other types of stress.) Nonetheless finding the right man to build a relationship with often dominates a single gay man’s life.
One newly out man was very bothered by the varied kinds of relationships he ran into, leading him to wonder about gay men. Do gay relationships fail more often that straight ones? Are the needs of two men in a relationship different from the needs of a man and a woman? How does gay dating differ straight dating?
As married or recently separated gay men, maybe we need to re-examine our expectations about relationships to clarify our needs and wants a gay men who have come out later in life and who have existing families. Do you know you looking for?
*When two or more facilitators are usually present, the Second Facilitator will be happy to talk privately if you prefer.*
The 519 Church St Community Centre, Room 304
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Gay Fathers of Toronto is operated by and for gay dads. All fathers, step-fathers, their same-sex partners, and all gay/bi men in a fathering role are welcome at a GFT meeting. It is an independent, peer support group that is run and governed by gay fathers. It has no political, corporate, or religious affiliation and receives no outside financial assistance. We ask each person to contribute $5 per meeting to cover website and other incidental expenses.
At your first meeting, though, you are our guest. If $5 is a financial burden or is the reason for staying away, please contact a Facilitator in person or email a private message to the lead Facilitator (firstname.lastname@example.org). We are here to support, not to inhibit or embarrass.
Meeting leaders are trained to facilitate discussions at support meetings; they are not professional life coaches, marriage counsellors, or psychologists.We talk about our own experience. We do not advise or challenge.
Predatory or intimidating behaviour will not be tolerated. Gay Fathers of Toronto has a Code of Mutual Respect. Ask a Facilitator to browse a copy of it if you want more information about it. Talk to a Facilitator or email us confidentially (email@example.com) about anything that offends or concerns you.