Feel alone? Isolated? Uncertain about the word gay? Newcomers often feel alone, like an outsider, or not certain if the Gay Fathers is the right place for them. Maybe this is your first contact with the 'gay community'. We've all been there. No one needs to remain alone.
That first meeting is a big step. The future may seem uncertain, stressful, scary, even spinning out of control. Yet, that first step may also hold the hope of a revitalized future, of personal growth, of hoped-for love, and of a new-found self-confidence. It may also mean family adjustments.
We won't advise. We will share our experiences, listen to yours, and support you in the path that suits you and your situation. We demand only a mutual respect for the differences and similarities of every man's situation and experience, his personal boundaries and privacy
Valentine's Day always left me feeling empty, excluded. As a child when schools permitted exchanging Valentine cards, everyone was ranked by the number of cards received. Later, Valentine's Day rituals were a weird measure of budding attractiveness, sexuality. Still later a measure of desirability.
Valentine's Day haunted the adult me. Every Feb 14 brought back those youthful memories and highlighted that I was still not - despite a successful marriage - a participant in this annual celebration of love and romance. Each successive Valentine's Day made me increasingly aware that I, having suppressed the "sexual orientation demon", was complicit in that exclusion. My own choices had denied the emotional hearts and candy of Valentines.
Is it just an annual, silly day catering to children and chocolatiers, or do Valentines touch something deeper? For me Feb 14 is still mostly just another day, but I no longer feel like an outsider.
*When two or more facilitators are usually present, the Second Facilitator will be happy to talk privately if you prefer.*
The 519 Church St Community Centre, Room 304
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Gay Fathers of Toronto is operated by and for gay dads. As a peer-support group, it is self-supporting and receives no financial assistance. It has no political or religious affiliation. All fathers, step-fathers, and their same-sex partners are welcome. Facilitators are trained to lead meetings; they are not professional coaches or counsellors.
You are our guest at your first meeting. Thereafter, we ask everyone to contribute $5 per meeting to cover website and other incidental expenses. If $5 is a financial burden or is the reason for staying away, please contact a Facilitator in person or email a private message to the Facilitator firstname.lastname@example.org. We are here to support, not to inhibit or embarrass.
We talk about our own experience. We do not advise or challenge. Gay Fathers of Toronto has a Code of Mutual Respect. Ask a Facilitator if you would like to read it. Predatory or intimidating behaviour will not be tolerated.
Please tell us about anything that upsets or offends. Email email@example.com. This e-mail is private and confidential.