Gay Fathers of Toronto (GFT) is a peer support group run by and for gay men who are fathers.

Since 1978 GFT has been helping men on their journeys. We are not here to tell you what to do. We are here to tell our stories and to hear yours. We do not tell you what to do or when; we are here to support you in the path you believe is right for you and your situation.

Many men come to their first meeting with pressing problems, feeling vulnerable, and concerned about what lies ahead. By respecting your personal boundaries, we want to make sure that you feel safe discussing personal issues. The privacy of each of us must be respected by all of us.

GFT meetings:

The 519 Church St. Community Centre, Room 304, Toronto

Check the Calendar for details about meetings.

 What to Expect at a GFT meeting*

When you first arrive you'll notice that the group is not large. The atmosphere is relaxed, friendly, and casual as men stand around chatting - bring a coffee if you like. You'll be greeted by a facilitator. Two trained facilitators - also gay fathers - lead each meeting. One works with newcomers, the other leads the main group discussions. Religion, politics, social activism, or personal agendas play no part in our meetings, the discussions, or the organization.

After the preamble, newcomers are invited to join a small group of two or three men where they can learn more about how GFT works and where pressing issues, if any, can be addressed. You don't have to share if you don't want to; you can just listen and learn.

 
"Sharing" just means telling your own story, your own experience, your concerns and issues, and listening to other men telling theirs. It is a peer support group. Collectively, there is a lot of wisdom in the group. In this way every man discovers strength, gains insight and knowledge, and sees new perspectives. No question is unimportant or naive. And everything you say remains strictly confidential and never leaves the room. We encourage every man to participate, but you may remain silent. You won't be criticised or judged either way.

Occasionally, GFT schedules special meetings with someone who special expertise or knowledge such as family counsellors, lawyers, psychologists, and other experts. And, yes, GFT occasionally hosts get-togethers as purely social events. You are invited to and welcome to attend even if it will be your first contact with our organization. See the Calendar for more information.

We understand how coming out to yourself, to your wife, to your children, to family and friends can be an emotionally challenging and daunting experience, but you are not alone. Some of the men at GFT may be in situations similar to yours, others have already worked their way through some of the same issues.  GFT has no prescription for your future. We are here to support you on the path you have decided to follow. Together, though, we can make our journeys smoother.

_*Regular support group meetings occur 8:00-9:45 on the 2nd and 4th Thursday each month. It is not necessary to join or register; any father is welcome.

 Check Calendar for exact dates and topics.